A long distance relationship is not easy to deal with, however, if you are in love and seriously committed to each other, it’s a worthwhile challenge. It comes with a wide range of emotions and can either strengthen the relationship or tear it apart. There are several things that need to be done in order to ensure the happiest and healthiest long distance relationship possible.
The first step in being in a long distance relationship is establishing that both parties are equally as committed to making the relationship work. This is the make it or break it factor in deciding if staying together is worthwhile. And if you seriously want to make this commitment, it requires effort too. Communication in any relationship is of the highest importance, so make the time to talk to your partner about where your relationship stands and be completely open.
Write everything down
If you have decided to take on the challenge of surviving a long distance relationship, you will feel much more secure if you know exactly what your partner has in mind. It can be of incredible benefit if you both write down what you are both willing to commit to every day in order to develop your relationship. This way each person can know what to expect and if they want to maintain the relationship, must stick to their end of the deal as well. Use any kind of form of communication, such a Skype, however, it is best to do this while you are actually together. An example of what these commitments might include is a daily phone call, or a good morning and goodnight text every day.
Make the time to visit
As busy as you may be, if you are seriously committed to developing your relationship, you have to take the time to visit your long distance partner. This probably will require a great deal of planning around your schedule, however making the effort to visit will show your partner how important they are to you and when you are physically together you will truly be able to develop your relationship. If you can avoid it, don’t be on your phone or working, give your partner your 100% devotion. If you are continuously making excuses as to why you cannot visit, perhaps you are not fully committed to making the relationship work. And furthermore, this is something else that can be added to the commitments agreement.
Think Long Term
Thinking long-term also goes back to the principle of commitment. You both need to ask yourselves where you see the relationship going and why you are both in the relationship and make sure it is for the right reasons, and not mere loneliness. It is vital to make sure the two of you see eye to eye on your future together.
Another necessary part of a long distance relationship is being real. You need to know who you are, what you are truly comfortable with and willing to accept and express all of those feelings to your partner. At the beginning of a relationship, it is normal to view our partner as perfect, however, if those feelings start to fade away, that is alright. Those feelings need to be accepted as they as normal. If you and your partner are playing games with each other and not being honest, you will not truly get to know each other. You might need to take the time to reflect on who you are before you can express it to your partner.